Essentials for Triumph
A book on excellence
A book that gives you the motivation and concise concepts
needed for you to conquer uncertainties. It reveals that success
is possible and gives you exactly what you need to be
LONE FELIX 2011
Massive Potential Group
Essentials for Triumph
a book on Excellence
©Lone Felix 2011
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This book is dedicated with utmost respect,
Sincere love and deep adoration to mother
Every proud look you gave me
Made me realize that I was destined for greatness,
Every tear you shade, gave me reason to shade a sweat to buy your smile.
Everything I am, and everything I will ever be, I owe it to you mother.
I acknowledge God in His grace and love for giving me the energy and ability to compile this book. I am highly indebted to the following people without whose support I would be unable to have accomplished the compiling of this book. Their support was either direct or indirect through the motivational pieces I gather from our interactions.
Dr. James Mwangi MBS, The CEO Equity Bank Ltd. You have been an outstanding role model, a helping father not only to me, but thousands of other young Kenyans.
My friend and role model Victor Ladan–PhD UK, currently with the Department of Theater Arts Kenyatta University for the review of the book and persistent mentorship.
I greatly appreciate Kyambi Kavali of the International Committee of Red Cross for the her encouragement and care.
Veronica DeMarco of Dorrance Publishing Company USA for the enormous encouragement and review of the book.
May God Bless you all.
DR. Linda Musumba, Dean Kenyatta University School of Law, for your encouragement. Dr. Hellen Oduku, Kenyatta University, Dr. Wangeci Ndung’u, a mother and cherished mentor and William Mahasi of Parklands Campus-KU for the great help you accorded me.
Finally, to my cherished pals, Robert, G.K Githire, a true role model, Antony Akoto, Leila Ahmed, Nicole Okoth, Damaris Charles and Henry Paul.
The faith you people show in me give me the impetus. Thank you.
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Chapter one: Understand that Excellence is Necessary…………………
Chapter two: Developing a winning Attitude…………………………………
Chapter three: Understand the Dynamics of Time…………………………
Chapter four: Managing the Environment……………………………………
Chapter five: Working
Since early 2009, I have been privileged to address over 75 institutions, conventions and conferences. This has been across three East African countries, Kenya, Uganda and Rwanda. What drives me is an urge to share with people a crucial piece of information that we can excel despite unfavorable circumstances. As I proceed with these addresses I have had an urge to communicate, with a sense of permanence to my audience.
This urge is what has motivated the compiling of this book. I equally believe it is a worth way of giving back to
the society that has taught me so much. As you read through the discussion, focus on getting the motivation, the inspiration, and
the bits that will enable you to cruise through the many hurdles in life. It is extremely important that we develop a success conscious mind.
That is the essence of this book. To help us develop ourselves in persons who understand our hidden and untapped might. I emphasize on the truism that success or failure in any venture is more a question of the mindset than that of means or channels. Within ourselves, there lies the might that can help drive us to our ultimate dreams.
To realize the essence of life, excellence should the central target of our endeavors; excellence in academic, professional and social endeavors. Interestingly, the largest groups of persons never give real thought to what we can achieve if we maximize ourselves. We school content being average, cruise through our professional lives without ever purposing to create that distinctive mark about
Literally, if you have never given thought to the honest scale of your abilities, then you have betrayed the essence of being. We can never be, if we do not purpose to be the best we can be. In many instances, it is my honest belief that if we expose ourselves to the right gospel, a gospel of belief in possibility, and if we come to believe this set of information, then we are better place to actualize ourselves and serve the purpose of being.
In this book, we have conveniently scheduled this crucial into five essences, which with certainty, we can term as the five requisites for triumph. The five are:
1. Understand that Excellence is Necessary
2. Develop a winning Attitude
3. Understand the Dynamics of Time
4. Manage the environment
5. Work Smart
As you go through the discussion, it is my desire that you shall be impacted; that you shall develop a conviction to realize your abilities and work towards realizing success.
UNDERSTAND THAT EXCELLENCE IS NECESSARY
‘Excellence, excellence, excellence, it is what you have to fight for’
~Dr. James Mwangi~
It would be prudent to begin by giving an operational definition of excellence. The choice of the phrase is deliberate and purposive.
Excellence is defined ambiguously by most dictionaries as the quality of being extremely good. The definition is ambiguous since the word ‘good’ is subject to endless controversy. ‘Extreme’ in itself is not definite and it lacks any specific meaning.
In the context of our discussion, we shall take an objective view of ‘extremely good’. Good shall necessarily incorporate the notions that the majority of the society benefits from one’s success, that the success is ‘good’ from a global point of view eliminating our regional biases and that the excellence in itself is holistic developing the brain, the mind and the person that is the candidate. And that it shall incorporate positive principles of morality.
The following would pass as the six reasons why you should excel
- A dynamic and globalized Kenya needs Merit and Competence
We are living in a very dynamic Kenya. Merit is being emphasized and merit is being achieved. The dynamism of our time is further fueled by globalization. Kenya has incorporated itself into the universe and effectively raised the bar of academic competition and professional proficiency to global scales.
When a student sits in a class for a CRE lesson in Kapsitwet Secondary School at the periphery of The Great Rift Valley, they are competing with a student of Religion in Sydney Australia. When a student sits for a law lecture in Kenyatta University Parklands
Campus, they are competing with students of law in Harvard School of Law in its prominence.
A local software engineer is equally competing for a global stage with those from established regions like China and Japan. Just like a legal practitioner in Kenya is competing for the global stage with a Texas attorney. To have any minimal impact on such a wide stage, you definitely need a niche; an exemplary doctrine unique to you. This uniqueness can be found, and should be found in academic excellence and subsequent excelling in the different ventures we partake.
The resources and the opportunities we have on the macro platform are limited. The people fighting for the same are many. To be considered for the stage one must prove to the world that they have a concept to offer. Interestingly, the only tangible proof you can
offer is obtaining excellence.
Another factor worth considering is that as a nation we are translating into a regime that adores meritocracy. The era of camaraderie and other peculiar qualifications being ladders to social apex is gone. Today, all professions need gifted persons; gifted in the
mind and heart. For once, we even have a constitution that expressly provides that progress in our professional lives should be based on merit and all persons ought to be afforded equal opportunities.
The only certain way therefore, to make a legitimate impact in the wake of this informed dispensation is by academically being exemplary and translating the academic exception into visible practical productivity. This is the sure way of claiming a
rightful position on the global stage.
Equally as a people, we should strive to create an environment free of graft and nepotism. These are the vices that have shelled Kenya and weakened our national fabric. The young generation should strive to excel by just and fair means. Competition for highness should
be based on pure merit and competence. This will enable the Kenyan dream to be lived; the Kenyan dream that has been so elusive in our parents’ generation; the dream of a cohesive truthful nation.
We should strive to celebrate our diversity since it is in this diversity that the Kenyan dream lies. This will only be possible if each of us is in a position to compete and concede defeat when it is due. If an individual is in a weaker position, they tend to find
faults in those who succeed. This is far more dangerous than tribalism. If you fail to excel, the long term and certain implication is that you will fall in the low bracket of the social realms of the society. Inability to perform equally perpetuates social inequality through widening and sustaining the gap between the rich and the poor.
This creates a far more dangerous instability than corruption, tribalism or nepotism.’ A society with wide economic disparities is a society against itself,” it is so said. The successful live in the fear of the less fortunate, the less fortunate live loathing the able. Insecurity, servitude, manipulation and other social ills will be clearly a characteristic feature of such a society. These fissures are undesirable.
Presently, we live in such a country. Kenya has gaps, although this can be attributed to selective empowerment, nepotism and other historical factors, open incompetence and indolence have ensured the incubation and subsequent sustenance of the same. There was a time when the educational system’s relevance had been compromised, bits of the same culture are traceable today, but even as such unfortunate traits are acknowledged, one has no business justifying non-progress on such bases.
Today, the constitution clearly outlaws discrimination on such bases as ethnicity, race, sex, dress or even religion. It has given us a chance to realize a cohesive state together, our ethnic or racial diversities notwithstanding. Implementation of this constitution would see a nation that celebrates its diversity, gives equal opportunity to those who deserve, a state that mediates social conflicts through the rule of law and with functionally autonomous institutions.
This indirectly implies that merit will inevitably reestablish itself as the sole avenue for the climb up the social ranking.
2.A CHANCE FOR A WOMAN TO BENEFIT FROM AFFIRMATIVE ACTION:
Perpetually, a Kenyan woman has reeled under the burden of culture and tradition. As it is, the cultural definition of a woman makes her subordinate to a man. The constitution has tried to introduce legal measures to remedy the situation. Indeed a Kenyan woman is greatly disadvantaged in very many ways. This however is more of a socio-cultural trend than a legal phenomenon. The Kenyan woman just like all her African counterparts reels under a repressive cultural burden. This has been variously exploited as a basis for gender based discrimination and even violation of basic rights.
This phenomenon is however not unique to Kenya, the world all over is fighting to accept the equality of the man and the woman. All civilization in the world, from the Confucius china to West Pokot Kenyan recorded preference for the boy child. This is since the boy
child was seen as a source of security and one, on whom the responsibility of the society’s continuity depended.
This preference explains the global trend where almost all countries record a size-able difference in the levels of education hence empowerment between the two sexes. Appreciating this, gender inequality is not entirely a legal issue. This is a trend set by the
society and which can only be effectively reversed through evolution of the socio cultural discernments of the society.
The Kenyan job market provides another field where a disadvantaged Kenyan woman can be seen. The male dominance in appointments, both public and private is conspicuous. Kenya as an African state has been accustomed to the all knowing man figure and the all submissive woman. Therefore other criterion like competency or meritocracy notwithstanding, the cultural chain still binds us to perceptions that some herculean tasks can not be entrusted to the female.
Subsequently, even as the constitution tries to legally enforce affirmative actions measures, a female candidate would be better advised that they have a task of proving to the stereotypical minds that they are amply adept to take on these tasks. To a male person, this increases the scope of competition. The traditionally favorable position afforded by gender has clearly been erased and new levels of stiffer competition set.
The efforts of the boy child will have to double. They have to accommodate both increasing competition and the substantial legal preference of a female candidate. The affirmative action is entirely a welcome idea as the historical gender dissimilarity needs to be corrected. History should be redressed since the boy preference might have robbed this country enormous potential. As the female student rejoices constitutional shielding from unfair discrimination, they have to put up with a big setback called stereotype. As aforementioned, the inequality in Kenya is more of a social cultural creation than it is a legal phenomenon.
The law may not discriminate from you, but the law has no point in directing attitude. Attitude is built by evidence. Therefore subsequent to the perennial underperformance of the girl child, typecast inferences have been made. It will take evidence again, to change the stereotypes. There should be evidence that a female candidate can perform beyond tradition.
All this points to one particular thing, that the changes we desire are achievable if we accord our academics the required level of concern and effort. To create a better Kenya, to create an empowered woman, to create a better man, to create a cohesive society, to create a balanced state that lacks social disparities; we need excellence.
3.Personal freedom and confidence
The most important thing however that Excellence can do is according an individual personal liberty. The present moments are imprisoning. We live constricted by so many intrinsic and extrinsic burdens. The day to day encumbrances need confidence and personal liberty to counter them. When one excels, they obtain a sense of confidence and freedom. They acquire a default assumption that they are in control of their lives.
The intimidation life accords them does not affect their lives greatly. They are capable of navigating through the life’s nuisances
with objectivity and optimism. Excellence affords hope, and hope is crucial if we will face the always tentative tomorrow. Academic excellence liberates an individual from traditional chains of perpetually nitpicking about inefficiencies in institutions and governance. Instead, they acquire a belief that the change they want is solely their responsibility, a responsibility they must act on.
Knowledge that we are in control of our lives is necessary if we have to avoid succumbing to stress factors. It is this crucial ingredient of life that excellence affords.
4· Material Increment
Needless to say, academic excellence will necessarily be accompanied by material increment. There should be no controversy on this regarding our operational definition of the phrase ‘academic excellence’. Material increment need not be the central drive for our efforts. This is because of the following reasons:
· Linkage of effort and material gain is feeble at many crucial stages in our lives. A primary school teen may fail to understand how getting 400 marks in her KCPE would give her money. We may expunge a lot of energies explaining the relationship but the truth will be blurred in her eyes. During such stages, we therefore need other motivations to keep us working hard.
Motivation for effort can include a large range of things. It could be service to the society, the joy of giving, the satisfaction of being associated with a brand, conscious desire to employ talents amongst other reasons.
· The second reason why we should not base our effort on material gain is the lack of certainty in its immediate acquisition. Many a times we engage in a venture just to discover that it is not immediately lucrative. We could get employed just to discover that the dream car is not coming in the second year. We could begin a trade just to learn that the fancied profits are not trooping into our accounts a year later.
If our central motivation was financial gain, we would have to hop from station to station or from venture to venture. This denies us a chance of actualizing our abilities to the fullest. We thus have to find a bigger motivation. A student would be better off thinking about joining the Stanford Business School as their most immediate motivation just like an employee would be better off aligning themselves to the mission of the institutions they serve.
Material gain is a default reward for consistent effort and in this world of soaring cost of living, inflationary pricing trends and greater benchmarks in social status; it is a necessary cushion to the otherwise jarring life tides.
5· Excellence ensures sustainable progress
When one excels, they give the world an extension; as build up on the efforts of others who have struggled to make the universe be what it is today. A musical artist who excels today adds to the beauty of Dolly Parton, Michael Jackson, Bob Marley, Miriam Makeba and all those who struggled to create a rhythm in the heart of the world.
A student who excels in class gives medicine, law or the teaching professions a chance for expansion. They give the legal field a chance to probably experience another Lon L. Fuller or the revered Lord Dening, they give the medical fraternity a chance to experience another Ben Carson or give the Banking Industry a chance to experience another James Mwangi.
For us to assure progressive advancement then excellence is necessary. We have to keep setting newer levels of performance; it is the only way we can guarantee a tomorrow that is different from today.
6· You spend time in this venture, you deserve something
When one invests time into a venture, it is only fair that they should get the desired result. Time is crucial, and effort is even more significant, it is unjustifiable that we can decide to burry the significance of the two by choosing not to excel.
Understanding that academic excellence is necessary and defining the same is the first step towards attaining it. This understanding foundations our efforts and creates a purposive culture in our attempts. It equally functions as a sneak view into the destination of our efforts which is crucial in giving us strength to proceed on amidst uncertainties.
One needs excellence since it has the power to sift us into positions we may assume the rest of our lives.
…excellence is necessary…
Developing a Winning Attitude
…It always seems impossible until it is done…
The Oxford Dictionary defines attitude as: The way that you think and feel
about somebody or something; the way you behave towards somebody or
something that shows how you think or feel.
The Macmillan Dictionary incorporates opinion, position of body and the informal
meaning of a proud and confident way of behaving that some people consider rude in their definition.
We shall be limited to the ‘THE WAY THAT YOU THINK AND FEEL ABOUT
SOMETHING’. However, we shall incorporate other elemental components as we
proceed in the discussion.
I have a tendency to exalt thought and choice as the ultimate determiners of our expansion. In this discussion I have greatly avoided philosophical biases as to whether we chose our destiny or it is ‘destiny’ in the crude definition of the unalterable determinate end of an individual as predetermined by whatever force. Nevertheless, this caution notwithstanding, I posit that ‘thought’ is the ultimate determiner of the extent to which our individual lives expand.
This cannot be woven in a mastery precision than in the foreword of, Allen, J’S, As a Man Thinketh (1903). Allen assets:…its object (the objects of the book) being to stimulate men and women in the discovery and perception of the truth that: they themselves are makers of themselves; by virtue of the thoughts, which they choose and encourage, that mind is the master weaver of, both of the inner garment of character and the outer garment of the circumstance.”
There are several details the citation brings forth that are consistent with the spirit of this discussion.
· That man is a maker of themselves
· That they make themselves through their thoughts
· That they themselves choose and encourage these thoughts
· That the thoughts determine both the inner character and the outer circumstances
MAN, A MAKER OF SELF
The above four axioms exalt man to the ambit of a deity; a deity that can perfectly interlace any condition to suit its goal. The truisms bear summarized basic elements needed for success i.e. the inner harmony of conviction and ability and the outer complementary circumstances.
The first element is not generally subject to controversy, many people agree that human beings can create internal serenity through specific methods. Counselors and theologians have invaluable literature on this. The second element however is subject to heated arguments. Can humanity determine their external circumstances? To discuss this, you have to consider the obviously limited
means and unsupportive circumstances we often find ourselves in.
We are obviously limited in means and resources in many ways, the circumstances are in many times unsupportive, limited books or no library, no parental care or brutal and unresponsive guardianship a frustrating colleague and many other hurdles. One could be
an orphan or simply in an environment that knows not success. Peanut salary or no employments are all examples of unsupportive circumstances.
Do such factors imply that failure is inevitable? Clearly that is not the case. That is when Allen’s words become critical in our lives. We have to know that reality can never be altered, but it can be interpreted in a way favoring our desires. Lack in the preliminary stages does not necessarily impede success; it only amplifies the success if it occurs.
In reality, everyone has abilities proportionate to his/her dreams. And as evidence shows, we are groomed in the same environment as the people we admire their accomplishments. We attend same schools with those who top in national examinations, studied with a
current manager of a blue chip firm or were employed by a colleague who is today our supervisor.
The same societal factors mould us with equal magnitude; we are exposed to the same resources and equal provisions of time. We are faced by the same worries and temptations but still our level of performance is not equal. One of the things that tilt scales in a seemingly level ground is ATTITUDE.
Our abilities stretch before us the extent we can scale; bearing in mind that our abilities have no determinate limitation. Means smooth the terrain we cruise. However, if we shall scale the stretch, it is a matter of choice; a matter of attitude and willingness. The attitude you bring to life, ultimately determines how well you accomplish life’s assignments. The attitude you bring to academics, ultimately determines how well you succeed in academic endeavors and the attitude you bring to work bears in proportionate measures on your productivity.
An attitude that sees possibility and adores success can allow you to surpass immense obstacles, to defy derailing forces, and achieve what if you listened to the shouting whispers of why you can’t make it; you would have no choice except never to try. A right attitude gives you the initial impetus relevant in propelling you through the entire navigation.
ELEMENTS OF A WINNING ATTITUDE
· A right attitude entails choosing to see the destination at the start of the journey: A right attitude is defined with certainty of destination. The principle behind this is that if you do not know where you are going, then you will end anywhere. One should take their time to determine their desires; this will come through self evaluation. Once you have determined the end, it is easier to define the means to the end.
· It entails defying the shadows that periodically blur the view of your destination: The view of the determined end will be obscured by several factors. We may fail in our preliminary stages. Our access to the means may be limited; a winner should not allow these shadows to erase the image of the desired end. Instead, amidst the deficiency, we should hold dear our hope; we should keep it
close to our hearts and ensure we work towards nothing short of it.
· It entails believing in reasonable change of direction and strategy but not destination: Clearly, as we move towards our goals, we may realize that the strategies we made are not working or that we took a wrong turn. This necessitates revision. Our revision should target the strategy and not the end. We should not be scared by a slight drift to alter our desired end. Change the path, but maintain the destination. If it is your belief.
· It incorporates acceptance of our inadequacies but never endorsing them as the ultimate impediments to the realization of our dreams.
A right attitude is your acceptance of the most basic of human rights, a right to dream. It is the only dream that cannot be denied or restricted. This is since, even if our physical being is constricted by the oppressions we face, our mind always has the liberty to drift as our choices dictate.
That is why by choice one can disrespect the enslavement of the environment, and attain to the limit their ambitions and desires. Success is openly more about conviction and choice than it is about means and environment.
· A positive attitude avoids undermining one’s worth through unnecessary comparison with others:
Each person is unique in their own ways. Everyone was created for a special unique purpose. I understand the controversy in regard of the above statement. It is thus significant that I should validate my claim that individuals were created for a specific
In itself, the question whether human life is purposeful is controversial. Theologians would find comfort in provisions of religious texts. However, apart from religious texts, there are other observable evidences that ascertain purpose in human existence.
Purpose is associated greatly with definite schedule; human life follows a sequenced trajectory that implicitly suggests purposefulness. Science can predict with reliable accuracy the approximate time for conception, the thereafter birth, and relative growth trends that are intruded by intervening factors. The established sequences strongly point towards a certain specific end.
Secondly, events in human are by default or intent goal oriented. Such coalesced goals could reproduce an ultimate certainty at the apex of being hence a second evidence of purpose in being. It is therefore important to discover that your being has a purpose. I have
severally posited that humanity’s purpose is to achieve implicit perfection; which if considered, greatly, it is just a higher and pure form of excellence.
This view is informed by thought and advanced by Aristotle’s and Plato’s depiction of a teleological cosmos in which all things have a final purpose, realization of their implicit perfection. It is good to admire the success around us. However in admiring this success, we should never loose the thought of our individual distinction from the masses. We should never loose the thought that we can reach altogether new heights in achievement.
A winning attitude respects we that we are. It accepts that we shall never be other people. It assimilates self acceptance which is key in discovering our uniqueness and untapped potential. Accepting our uniqueness is a sacred act of worship, an appreciation to the intentions of the heavens. We therefore have to strive to get the best of ourselves. Other people’s success can provide motivation, but it should not be the scale on which we gauge the extent of our potential. Such a comparison robs us our potential. Worse still, it
could make us start looking in our lives things we shall never find there.
In respecting one’s individual distinction, one should not confuse this with notions of negative individualism or arrogance. This does not imply that we should live like islands. In any case, humanity is like a tree, individual people are like leaves of that tree. Each leaf on its own cannot make a tree to grow, but their collective efforts create a stem that withstands storms and squalls. Each leaf has its position, they never overlap or shadow each other, and they get sunshine from the same sun but never fight for the same.
This tree analogy should impart a sense that as we strive to advance our individual selves, we should avoid negative competition. It equally shows that a stable society can be achieved if we pool our efforts. In our individual capacities, it is necessary that we should stretch out our arms to pull our colleagues up the ladder. The more stable all of us are, the more serenity we achieve in life.
We see things not as they are, but as we are
Another essential aspect of a positive attitude is self perception: The way we see ourselves, greatly impart on the performance in our lives and influences the actions we take. This perception includes the way we see our physique, interaction abilities, external circumstances and our view of the inner abilities we posses.
Evidence links positive perception to higher self esteem and faster social progress. Since our lives are intertwined with those around us, it means that there comes a time when what they say weigh heavily upon us. Their perceptions in such times could alter the perception we have of ourselves.
In many cases, the world doubts us. People who support us build storms on our paths. Their doubts would always appear legitimate and sound based on circumstance and evidence. We should always hear them. One should hear the case the world has against them since this could source information relevant for our own analysis.
However, negative words should never be allowed to water our resolves down. Wrong beliefs by people should never drain ones positive energies. A time, these negative assertions serve to amplify our achievements. It gives a bigger relief, when agnostics are disapproved, and it provides an even bigger platform to impact a larger society.
One should learn to see themselves through proud eyes. Eyes that give us reasons to love ourselves, to work for the best, to strive and better our present, the eyes that reveal to us our uniqueness; eyes that know our distinction from the masses. We should see ourselves through proud eyes, eyes that urge us to enhance our struggles and increase the purpose of our being. We should never be convinced that we are not able; we should never be convinced that we can become wretches, EVEN IF THIS IS WHAT THE
ENTIRE WORLD BELIEVES.
If we fall, it does not mean we are done, it only means that we might have veered off the main lane, but we can always arise, we can always dust the past from our story, we can always create a whole new today and a better tomorrow.
If we learn to see ourselves through our own eyes, then we shall know that limits are set by the world, but in our hearts and souls, there lies a deeper conviction, an insatiable hunger, and a nagging urge to transcend all obstacles, to conquer our worries and to exceed the limits that our fears may wish to set. Our eyes know us better. They can explore the hidden secretes in our hearts, they know our weaknesses and our might, they can see clearly into our dreams and passions. Those are the eyes through which you should always see yourself.
The value we assign ourselves is the central stimulant to our abilities. This is purely personal; however, the environment could influence it minimally.
· A positive attitude defines Darkness well:
Life is characteristic of lack and want. Even though these are not pleasant attributes it is this dark side that actually defines life, the loathed side of life gives substance to the very life.
Darkness reveals to us the worth of light, poverty shows the value of wealth and
failure shows the need for success. These unpleasant sides of life are actually
what constitute the bulk and subsequently shape life.
It is true that one develops a greater drive to pursue their dreams when they know
what makes them sad. We realize the worth of what we value by encountering
what we hate. This is the interpretation that attends to a winning mind in their
The world is sometimes frustrating. When we need our strength most, time offers us weakness, when we need good health, season offers us illness. It reaches a time, when our prayers bounce of the skies, when our sincerest of all wishes fail to pass. Why would it appear that the best things in life fail, or come to an end rather quickly? Why would it be that the clearest of our dreams get blurred in the uncertainties of this world?
I would like you to take time and imagine this world. A world where there are no tears. A world where we wake up to a morning symphony of joyous laughter as opposed to the hues of desperation we are accustomed to. A morning where the sun breaks in abundance and we have no reason to go and seek daily provisions. Where our wishes come to be in a click of a moment. A morning where I would become a lawyer without dragging my tired body through the intricacies of books, where if a cancer is detected in my brain it melts away at my wish. Imagine this.
To me, this would be a fathomless desert. There would be no event in life, no substance of struggle, no taste of a sweat, no feeling of a Victory. The world would be an unadventurous trail of tradition, where there are no ills to surmount or no hills to overcome. It would be a plain, with no fears and an no anxieties.
These dark aspects of life shape its substance. When you wake up and your computer fails, and you have to format all the data you cherish, and reinstall an operating system, the data is lost, but you achieve one thing, the Knowledge that even if my computer fails, I can still live on. If you visit your doctor for a routine Check, and he tells you he has seen a dent on your heart, your fears of losing a life abound, but you achieve to realize one thing, that even with a dent on your heart, the sun does not fail to rise. If you wake up, and the country’s leadership is in a mess, and you think your state is the worst in the world, time is but offering you a chance to be the change you want.
Life makes the glory of light less obvious, because unless we meet darkness, we risk taking light for granted. Life affords us tears because it is when our eyes are dried, that we appreciate the comfort of love, joy and peace. We are afforded trials, because surmounting a trial sweetens Victory. Nowhere in the world, has calm resided with profoundness than in the ports of storms. I mean we understand the peculiarity of calm when we have faced storms. We appreciate the value of shelter when we get drenched in the rains of trouble.
God in his greatness has given you the gift of autonomous thinking, this only means, that holding our thoughts in liberty is the most sacred Act of worship we can give the heavens. And in his graciousness, He allows you to create yourself with your thoughts. Even if circumstances chain you, liberate your mind; behold success and success you will become. When you are chained by fears of uncertainty, liberate your conscience and allow it to take strength in conviction. Be brave and pursue your desires, through the fears of failure and the impediments of lack.
The Glory of success is amplified by how difficult it was to reach it
· As earlier indicated, a positive attitude appreciates someone’s right to dream.
The emphasis on one’s ability to dream is based on the fact that we must have an ideal end that will guide our real efforts.
A good dream should be quantifiable in measure and time; it should be proportionate to our sincere ability. This description encapsulates the popular maxim where a dream should be SMART.
We should be wary of endorsing this blanket description, in as much as it captures the objective truth; we have to distill the sense of ambiguity it possesses. Of significant concern is the phrase Attainable. It has frequently surfaced in my discussion with students and employees of institutions asking how one can discern whether a dream is attainable.
It risks being construed as, ‘What you plan to do should have been done by another person successfully.” This is an awkward presupposition. If we were to live in such a world, then life would be devoid of progress. The only way to know whether a dream is attainable is to premise it against our sincere ability.
In defining ability, one should avoid overemphasis on means, material affluence, age and social position. One should try to limit the bulk of consideration themselves to internal motivation, which I shall equate to conviction. Let us emphasize the need of specificity in a dream. In itself, this is a controversial concept. Being specific assumes certain knowledge of the future.
Concepts of fate and destiny could be floated to counter any proposition that a human being can be certain about tomorrow. Definitely, this is not a philosophical ground upon which I may engage in such a debate. The question I should answer and which I will, Can someone be certain about a dream?
The answer is a resounding yes?
We shall proceed by first determining how one should set their dreams. A few considerations are imperative:
· Consider your passions
· Objectively be sincere with your ability
· Consider your personality
Passions are the things one does without much effort and enthusiastically. Parental guidance is critical in pointing out passions. A parent should however never patronize when it comes to passions. Parents are always in perfect knowledge of the child’s ability. Their guidance sho